Step 1: Take Responsibility for Finding Your One True Love
Be deliberate about getting married. Don't give God the Responsibility He gave you.
So I shall get up and go through the city; in the streets and in the squares, I shall seek my sweetheart (Song of Songs 3:2)
Call to Action
1. Form a Support team around you.
2. Grow your Character (be a better person).
3. Get Emotionally Healthy
4. Know Your Self - Fo you to knwo what you want and dont want.
Step #2: Know What's Stopping You Inside
Identify your Internal Blocks and Self-Imposed Prisons of Fears
"he who doubts is like a wave of the sea that is driven and tossed by the wind. For that person must not suppose that a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways, will receive anything from the Lord. (James 1:6-7)
1. Are you the Mark or Mindy the Mouse? The Problem of Low Self-Worth and the Fear of Rejection.
2. Are you Carl the Family Crutch? The Problem of Enmeshed Family Relationships and the Fear of Guilt.
3. Are You Tess and Trisha the Traumatized? The Problem of Traumas of Childhood and the Fear of More Pain
4. Are You Jim the Jellyman? The Problem of No Backbone and the Fear of Commitment.
5. Are You Belle the Brokenhearted? The Problem of Being Attached to Past Hurts and the Fear of Hurting Again.
6. Are You the Ludy the Luggage Lady? The Problem of Being Attached to Dead-End Relationships and the Fear of Losing Even That.
7. Are you Danny and Doreen the Distant? The Problem of Isolation and the Fear of Intimacy
8. Are You Janice the Undecided? The Problem of Being Attached to Limbo and the Fear of Making Mistakes
Above issues are not profitable - Spiritually, socially, financially, emotionally, and physically. Remove your inner blocks in your life
Heal what needs to be heald
Work on your self, be a better person, that makes all prettier.
And then move on and share your blessedness.
Step #3: Talk to Lots of Gentlemen/Ladies
Don't search for a Spouse. Search Instead for Self - Knowledge, Fun and Friends.
"Let your acquaintances be many . . . . " (Sirach 6:6)
This is to correct the Myth #2: There's One Person Out There Meant for Me.
Call to Action :
Action #1. Go to Where the GOOD Guys/Gals Go.
Action #2. Clarify Your Purpose - Your Talking to Friends, Not to a Potential Spouse.
Five Fantastic Reasons:
1. You'll Grow as a Person.
2. You'll get to know yourself more and be a better person by getting feedback from emotionally healthy friends
3. You get to understand the opposite sex more.
4. You meet lots of New Friends.
5. You'll have a good time.
Action #3. Aim to Talk to Three Single Men/Ladies a Week
Action #4. Through Your Actions, Tell Single Men/Ladies "It's Okay. You Can Talk to me" Smile
Action #5. Get Involved in Projects Together. You will get to know the person more in time of stress and celebrate fruitfulness together.
STEP #4: Have as Many Friendly Dates as Humanly as Possible
You don't have to call them dates. Call them chats and chill over a meal or cup of coffee. Have dates with your family and friends, to get to know people more and yourself more.
"For from the fullness of the heart the mouth speaks" Matthew 12:34
Six Rules of Friendly Dates
1. You Remove the Romance from the Picture.
2. You Don't Use Your Potential - Husband/wife Checklist
3. You have Friendly Dates with Almost Anyone at Least Once or Twice.
4. You Commit Not to Enter into Any Exclusive Relationship for Six Months.
5. Accept That There Are Still Risks of Getting Hurt.
6. You Decide by the Second Date If You Wish to Continue Meeting or Not
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Happy Dating and GOD Bless
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